At Thomas & Joanne's Big Day

nice gathering

it has been a while since i saw AM, VP, OD and sandy. so, it was really good to see AM, VP and sandy at jaylyn's 4th birthday party. hmm... OD, why you didn't come?

the mothers are getting prettier each day and their kids are growing so quickly... especially jayden and reeve. but, i'm really glad to been able to catch up with all the pretty mummies. :)

Here I am!!!

Pheeeewwww!!! after the 15th time of keying in the wrong username and password, i finally got help from blogger to send me a new password. I am suppose to be very busy at work today, but somehow, without knowing why, i logged on to BnP with an intention to blog something and saw Joanne's (JT747) post, which was also posted today. I checked the calender thrice to make sure that its 14th today...why? Because its such a coincidence that we both have chosen to blog today after so many months...

I had lunch with IS and Choon Yew yesterday at Oriental something in Jaya 33. I have not seen both these fellas for so long and was glad to have finally met up with them. CY introduced IS and I into using this new "shoutout" thing on our handphone. Just have to pay 25cents to register and then you can follow whoever you choose to follow on handphone to get latest updates on a daily basis. I know it sounds confusing, for more details log on to http://www.pacmee.com/ or call CY at 012.3885590 to learn more. Say, if JT747 wants to "fong fei kei" again as usual, all she have to do is send an sms to say FFK to 22700 and all her followers will get the same sms on their mobile instantly, so its cheap and cost effective lor...

Another thing is, Nicole have requested all the ladies to get away for 3D 2N in early September or middle to either Tioman (i suggested), Maya Hotel (OD suggested), BKK (both OD and I suggested) or Phuket (Nic suggested). Please let me know early as i will have to book flights or rooms so that all that are going will have to lock themselves in and thus no FFK issues. Ok!

JT747 owes OD, VP, Nic RM200 each. Already 1 month, when do u intend to pay?

it's been a loooong while

yeah you are right, it has been quite a while since this blog has been abandoned. so long that i cannot remember what login name i had for this blog. it really is long. what happened? to come to think of it, i really miss those days when all of us were online chatting and blogging whatever shit that comes into mind. where did all these great times go?

looking back at those posts, i do laugh to myself. and it's a shame that all of us went our own ways, everyone busy with their own work and stuff. i havent met anyone of you since a month ago i think. eventhough that day in the curve, we didnt really catch up as everyone was busy singing... hehehe.

WHATS HAPPENING ?

Hi Girls .. its been a while the last blog was on March from our dearest new comer .... Anyways lets hook up soon what do you say ? We have been slacking just becoz we have been doing our own things . Well lets hear some updates .....

Views on M-I-Ls

That stands for Mother-In-Law. Ever since my F-I-L passed on, I have wholeheartedly invited my MIL to stay with me in my house. I need to write this as this is the only way I can vent out my frustrations.

Let me first start by giving you a bit of history on how it all started…

When we first got married, we did not have a house on our own yet and have no choice but to stay with her. The trouble all started from the day I became Mrs. Ho. I do not know what I have done but I guess it’s my face, maybe its my body language – I am accused of being an evil witch with black magic that had charmed her son to an extend that he is now a changed person!

Well, if anyone of you know my husband, please believe that he is one person with such a strong personality that it is impossible to sway him in any way once his mind is made up. As a wife who loved him dearly despite his temper and his “sometimes out of this world” point of view, I do not have such power. Not that I wish I have, because I married him for what he is and despite his rare outburst, I know he loves me as much as I love him.

Anyway, when I became Mrs. Ho, I tolerated my MIL. She will sometimes say things that hurt me so badly that I break down and cry but I tolerated, nevertheless. Each day I pray that I would have my own house and get out of the hell hole. I simply can’t live with a person who thinks that she is perfect and if there are any faults, it simply belong to the other party. I, however, became an expert in switching off. One day, after 4 years of marriage and after my first child was born, my wish came true and let me tell you, the freedom of being with just your family and having a home that you can call your own, are amazing. I have never been so happy in my entire life.

Things started to get even better when we moved to our second home which, to me, is heaven sent. I love my new home, I love my husband, I love my kids (somewhere a long the way when we were in our first home, we had our second child), we have enough money to go for good expensive meals every now and then and not to mention the occassional holidays we took. Life was bliss.

My husband and I usually spend our weekends having some drinks which starts in the afternoon and blast all our favorite songs on our mini home theater system and talk and talk and talk until we are both tipsy from the wine and the songs and maybe lie down on where we first started and dosed off until dinner time.

When we first moved out, my relationship with my MIL improved. In fact, I started loving her. I bought her presents, took her out for dinners and even for short holidays within Malaysia. All was well until the day my FIL passed away.

As I was thinking, that this is the way should be, I invited her to stay with us. I mean, common, she had just lost her husband, right? Is this not what all good daughters-in-law should do? I mean, she is a lonely soul and do not even have a single friend to call her own. What am I suppose to do? Leave her alone in the house? Boy! Is this the biggest mistake of my life?

It started even during the funeral. I was lighting a joss stick for my FIL (even though I am a Christian but I feel that if you love someone and out of respect, you should do what is right – that does not mean you are giving up your faith), and before I knew it, she was standing beside me and said the most unexpected thing – “Won’t your Jesus be upset with you for holding a joss stick?”. So, what does she mean by that?

Anyway, since she moved in, I really tried being a good daughter to her but she speak words that would slice you in half and you wouldn’t know what hit you.

One Saturday, it was my granny’s birthday, and we all went to back Ipoh to celebrate with her. Of course she was talking a lot in the car and as usual, I was switched off. Didn’t know and didn’t care what was going on in the back seat. My kids, my mom and MIL were seated behind. I was happy going back to Ipoh to see granny and that is all that matters. I missed her and can’t wait to see her and kiss her and hug her.

All was fine and dandy until when we were checking in, in the hotel. While waiting for the room, I saw my hubby walking up to her and started talking to her. You see, when my hubby is angry, you actually see it in his eyes. So I started wondering around the lobby steering clear of their way as I do not want to get involved.

Before I knew what was happening, all the happiness that was there earlier, turned sour. Still, I was not aware. So, when we got the keys to our rooms, I had no choice but to get into the same lift with the both of them. The tension between the two was so great that you can feel it in the air. After settling MIL down, I went to our room and asked hubby what happened.

Apparently, on our journey to Ipoh, in the car, MIL asked to most illogical, unintelligent question of the century directed to my six year old. MIL asked him if his daddy hits his mummy. Can you just imagine how shocked hubby was? Obviously, hubby was pissed. Me? Like I said, when she speaks, I switch off – did not hear a word!

Guess what? The next thing I knew, she accused me of doing a pillow talk thing with hubby and I was blamed! However, we went for dinner and she started accusing me in front of my family and saying what an evil witch I am and how she is suffering staying in our house. Her face was so long that everyone can literally see it sweeping the floor. She was loud. She spoilt the whole party, made everyone uncomfortable and embarrassed her own son. She was telling everyone that when we go back to KL, she will move back to her own house. Even my granny who is the kindest soul in the whole world could see through her. Mind you, my granny is 93 years old.

The entire journey home is so uncomfortable. I can’t wait to get out of the car.

Since she’s been here, I really did my best to make her comfortable. I take her out for walks in the morning, changed the kitchen for her, changed the guest room to suit her, took her shopping for clothes and she does not need to lift a finger in the house except for cooking the occasional one meal a day and only when she really wants to.

I do not know what I have done to deserve this and I have been trying for 12 years. Should I try anymore? Until today, whenever we have visitors, she would tell anyone and everyone that she is not comfortable living with us and wants to move back - she even said it to my part-time maid. This time, I am really praying that she would. But, she is, unfortunately still around. I mean, what the heck, can’t she for once just mean what she say. Of all the nonsense that she has been saying all this years, for goodness sake, please do it just this one time.

I have a lovely home but a home that I do not want to go back to…

Melb..

Hi fellas,

sorry june, i have not logged in since Feb 07, so i didnt know that you had contributed. Most of the bloggers have been very busy lately so that is probably why noone has commented or contributed to the blog. This blog has been dormant since last September, so i think we all shall start pumping in "hot gossips" as soon as we can.

I am actually blogging from Melbourne now, I have OD, Lauren, Julie, Rena and my sweetpea son Reeve with me here. We came for a short break away from the hustle and bustle of KL but found that Melb is more stressful than where i came from! The city is so dirty, just like a huge astray, cigarette budds all over, broken bottles at every corner and the street stinks. It is no longer the same Melbourne which i contemplated to migrate to with r2r last year. I am so dissapointed with the place this year. At one point, when we were walking towards Victoria Market, on the way there, i actually saw a sanitary napkin (used) lying in the middle of the road. Mothers avoiding their prams and onlookers were embarassed. One guy even had to pull his dog away as the poor fella wanted to sniff.

This time round, Reeve was down with fever on his first day, second day, aud had it, third and fourth day i was on it. We visited the Werribee Zoo today, the kids saw Zebras, Antelopes, Camels, Rhinos, Giraffes, Lions and etc...unfortunately Reeve was fast asleep after seeing the Giraffes, when he woke up an hour later, he ask "mami where is the bus" (safari bus which we were sitting in when he last saw the Giraffes). after that we headed to St Kilda Beach where we had oysters and latte.

Update u guys later when we come back! Happy working to you all and kisses and hugs from Melb...

Terima Kasih

Hi Girls,

Thanks for inviting me blog. I am a mother of two. I now can blog stuff that I do not want my entire family or my daughter to read :-)

Nothing much is happening in my life at the moment except my fight with my HR Manager which sucks big time cos she is being such a bloody bitch.

The gist of it, I was on medical leave for some time and she said that I am only entitled to 18 days of medical leave even though I was hospitalised. I had a cyst/ abscess removed from my breast - I think she fucking wants me to go to work with a bloody hole in breast. And what she did was she fucking cut my pay! Almost RM4,000! Can you believe that?! NIAMAH!

I need professional advice! Any handsome lawyer frens out there?

VANISHED!

another year have passed and i still feel the same. sometimes in life when we were young, we want to start working and be accepted amongst the older fellas, now that i am getting old, i wish i could have done more during my teens or in my 20's. i never regretted in marrying ronnie, but i wished i had just waited a little longer to learn and experience more about life/relationship before i jumped in. i used to ponder why couples split after a year or two of their marriage. Don't they ever think why in the first place they got married, dont they ever think why they chose that man that is sleeping next to them for? but now i know, its not really up to one to decide, things happen and sometimes the paths that is in front of us just doesn't really allow us to turn back, eventhough if you are to turn back it will not be the same anymore. it would be for the sake of people and relatives around us.

at any point in time, have you ever sat in a mamak or coffee shop and realise that there is just nomore conversation with your partner? all u guys can talk about is your kids, the sports rim on the chinese fella's car that just pulled up in front of you, the sky looks dark and it is going to rain soon, there is a new Raoul shop in Bangsar Village, the milk powder is cheaper in TMC than in Groccers, Mrs Tan's son Ryan was kicked out of school for scolding the teacher...blah..blah...blah...

is it me or does it happen to everyone? where has it VANISHED to?