Marriage

A friend of mine sent me this on Monday, just thought of sharing!

An African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep both eyes open,and after you marry, close one eye."

Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone,don't let lust,desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem, make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren't really important. Once you decide to commit to someone, over time his or her flaws, vulnerabilities, pet peeves and differences will become more obvious.

If you love your mate and want the relationship to grow and evolve, you've got to learn to close one eye and not let every little thing bother you.Neither of you are perfect, but are you perfect for each other?

Do you bring out the best in each other? Do you compliment and compromise with each other or do you compete, compare, and control? What do you bring to the relationship? Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain?

You can't take someone to the altar to alter him or her.

Manipulation, control, jealousy, neediness and selfishness are not the ingredients of a thriving, healthy, loving and lasting relationship! Seeking status,wealth and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship.

What keeps a relationship strong? Communication, intimacy, trust, a sense of humor,sharing household tasks, some getaway time and daily exchanges (a meal, shared activity, a hug, a call, a touch).

Leave a nice message on the voicemail or send an email. Allow your mate to have outside interests. You can't always be together. Learn each other's family situation. Respect his or her parents.
Don't put pressure on each other for material goods. Remember for richer or for poorer.

The greatest glory of living is not in never falling, but in rising everytime you fall ...