talk and do

as most of you would've known, my aunt is in her last stage of lung cancer. she was first diagnosed with cancer on 15th may 2005 (i think). with a cancer patient in the family, i realised that not only is the patient suffering, but the family and friends surrounding the patient have to learn to cope with the illness too.

for this whole year, i've learned one thing: as a friend/family member to the patient, you may mean well by giving suggestions and advices as to what the patient should do or eat. but, bear in mind that you may not be the one who is actually taking care of him/her. if you think the patient should eat blended fruit juices or herbal soup and etc. then, my suggestion is make them yourself and bring them to the patient. giving instructions and advices are just not good enough. that will bring a toll on the person taking care of the patient. all these i've seen with my own eyes.